More About Potty Training Problems

My child isn’t interested in using the potty at all.

Try not to worry. Remind yourself that, sooner or later, your child will want to be dry for their own sake. If they start to see potty training as a battle of wills with you, it’ll be much harder.

My child keeps wetting himself.

You’ve got two options: you could go back to nappies for a while and try again in a few weeks, or you can keep trying now but be prepared to change and wash clothes a lot.

Whatever you decide, don’t let it get you or your child down, and don’t put pressure on them. Talk to other parents about how they coped. You also don’t want to confuse your child by stopping and starting too often. So if you do stop, leave it for a few weeks before you start again.

Just when I think things are going well, there’s an accident.

Accidents will happen for a while so when your child does use the potty or manage to stay dry, even if it’s just for a short time, let them know how pleased you are.

Even though accidents can be very frustrating, try not to show your child your frustration. Explain that you want them to use the potty or toilet next time. If your child starts to worry, the problem could get worse.

My child was dry for a while, but now they’ve started wetting again.

If your child has been dry for a while either at night, during the day or both, and then starts wetting again, it can mean they have a bladder infection, constipation or threadworms. Ask your doctor or advice. Alternatively, there may be an emotional reason. Disruption (such as moving house, or a new baby arriving) or a change of routine can often have an effect.

The best thing you can do is be understanding and sympathetic. Your child will almost certainly be upset about the lapse and won’t be doing it on purpose.

My child is about to start school and is still not dry.

By this age, your child is likely to be just as upset by wetting as you are. They need to know that you’re on their side and that you’re going to help them solve the problem.

Talk to your doctor, nurse, pediatrician, your mother or sister to get some guidance. They may refer you to a clinic for expert help.

Coping with a disabled child

Some children with illnesses or disabilities find it more difficult to learn functions such as sleeping through the night or using a toilet. This might be linked to their medical condition or disability, and it can be challenging for them and for you.

Further information

How to potty train

Bedwetting

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